• Nikls94@lemmy.world
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      An ex once who told me that she had a rape fetish, was totally into it. I was against it but since she was longing for it so badly I told her “I‘ll do it during week 18 but I won’t tell you when” and she was excited.

      Long story short: she enjoyed it while it lasted but cried afterwards because I was too harsh.

      Years later I ran into her husband and it turned out that she has BPD.

      I am very lucky to have had a written contract back then.

      • JackbyDev@programming.dev
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        I think generally you’d want to start smaller when trying any CNC stuff. But hey, a lot of kinks exist only in our minds but aren’t something people want to try, and sometimes we find out the hard way. I hope you two have each other the aftercare needed to move past that.