And you sound like someone who polices choices, swallow the onion whole, feeds the trolls AND takes ragebait at face value.

I truly hope you get to see the world and yourself with kinder, more reality based eyes one day.

I point out shitty behavior, no matter the source. Hence why I am pointing out your very shitty behavior, that you’re too biased to even comprehend.

Open garbage can > Look in > Mostly garbage.

How very insightful of you, mate.

There are some amazing people in FetLife, and in Grindr too. But like I said before, looking at the very bottom of the barrel and judging a whole gender based on it, that is beyond stupid.

Ugh, casual sexism. Look at the bottom of the barrel, and judge an entire gender by the way those behave.

A lot of guys, gay or otherwise, don’t think or behave like that. And by your own definition, you’re also the worst. Sucks to have that terrible self esteem, but don’t lump me up with your self-hating ass

Thank you for being the voice of reason and your patience with some people. A lot of people succumb to The Toupee Fallacy (A form of selection bias in which a thing whose quality is measured in terms of being difficult to detect is wrongly judged to be of poor quality in general, caused by the fact that most people only notice poor quality instances of it.).

I stopped showering every day for medical reasons and under medical supervision when I was young, and that really helped with my smell(Turns out I had both a fungal infection, and a hormonal disorder), and the habit stayed. My hair and my skin do a lot better, and due to the nature of my job, I would certainly know if I smelled, since I am often meeting clients and other team leads.

Having a bidet, applying deodorant daily and changing my clothes daily as well, added to working in climate controlled spaces, away from the sun, crowds and smelly habits like smoking are all factors that some people seem incapable of even considering.

But of course, this is Lemmy, where nuance often just fucking dies.

Because Lemmy is a most of the time a kind, left leaning socialist utopia, unless it is about cars, and men. And if it is about both, boy oh boy. And if you added AI, you’d get a trifecta of negativity.

It is gross to me, seeing so many up voted comments body shaming, some stranger for the car they drive, but the in-group bias is massive.

I wonder if they would be this gross if it was a woman driving the car.