Two bisexual friends have independently told me from their own experiences that “bisexual” mostly = “gay with a dash of hetero,” effectively, and that it’s not at all 50/50. I wonder how true that is for the rest of the world.
even that is too strict IMO, gender and even sex are social constructs and it’s not like people are specifically attracted to the genitals.
if someone says they’re a 100% turbostraight man that still doesn’t mean jack shit, genitals and appearance are independent and almost everyone cares about both to some degree.
i just assumed i was straight until like 5 years ago, when i started realizing that actually i just like femininity A LOT and i don’t care what’s in the pants (i equally enjoy dick and puss and would quite enjoy both at once in ample amounts), and as of late i figured out that i even enjoy androgynity and some masculinity as long as there’s no fat or body hair.
i would boldly claim that sexual orientation as a concept is completely useless, it’s like summarizing people’s food preferences into categories, it makes no sense on a fundamental level.
For me, I would say that the magnitude of my attraction is roughly 50/50, but qualitatively, the attraction I feel towards a man is distinct from what I feel towards women.
A significant aspect that plays a role is also how I present to the world. From my appearance, most people would conclude that I am LGBTQ, and that usually means assuming I’m gay. This is useful because any bisexual’s dating pool is biased towards opposite sex partners; if I want to find gay or bisexual (or pansexual or asexual) women to date, it’s strategically useful to wear my sexuality on my sleeve, so to speak. This has the helpful side effects of filtering out the kind of straight asshole who says “why would you shave your hair like that? You might get more male attention if you made yourself look pretty”
Sexuality is messy. The attraction I feel is pretty equal. How the world perceives me is more gay than straight (because the world likes to pretend that bisexuality doesn’t exist, and then act like I’m changing my mind when I “switch from being gay to straight” or vice versa (/facepalm). In terms of who I actually date or hook up with, the balance is probably skewed towards men. These three components (attraction, outward identification/presentation and behaviour) make sexuality complex, especially for bisexual people; I would wager that there are many people who identify as straight and have had no same sex relationships, but who experience some level of same-sex attraction. It also gets more complex when one considers that many people experience sexual attraction and romantic attraction differently. For example, I have a friend who is asexual, but homoromantic.
You might find it interesting to read about the Kinsey scale, which looks at sexuality as a spectrum, with exclusively [homosexual/heterosexual] on the extreme ends of the scale, and degrees of bisexuality between them.
Two bisexual friends have independently told me from their own experiences that “bisexual” mostly = “gay with a dash of hetero,” effectively, and that it’s not at all 50/50. I wonder how true that is for the rest of the world.
A bisexual friend of mine said mostly straight with a dash of gay
It’s almost like there’s a spectrum
I kinda am into the theory we all are bi to a degree. Sexuality is a spectrum like autism.
even that is too strict IMO, gender and even sex are social constructs and it’s not like people are specifically attracted to the genitals.
if someone says they’re a 100% turbostraight man that still doesn’t mean jack shit, genitals and appearance are independent and almost everyone cares about both to some degree.
i just assumed i was straight until like 5 years ago, when i started realizing that actually i just like femininity A LOT and i don’t care what’s in the pants (i equally enjoy dick and puss and would quite enjoy both at once in ample amounts), and as of late i figured out that i even enjoy androgynity and some masculinity as long as there’s no fat or body hair.
i would boldly claim that sexual orientation as a concept is completely useless, it’s like summarizing people’s food preferences into categories, it makes no sense on a fundamental level.
Girly boys are way hotter than girls, change my mind
counterpoint: a girly boy making out with a girl is even hotter
For me, I would say that the magnitude of my attraction is roughly 50/50, but qualitatively, the attraction I feel towards a man is distinct from what I feel towards women.
A significant aspect that plays a role is also how I present to the world. From my appearance, most people would conclude that I am LGBTQ, and that usually means assuming I’m gay. This is useful because any bisexual’s dating pool is biased towards opposite sex partners; if I want to find gay or bisexual (or pansexual or asexual) women to date, it’s strategically useful to wear my sexuality on my sleeve, so to speak. This has the helpful side effects of filtering out the kind of straight asshole who says “why would you shave your hair like that? You might get more male attention if you made yourself look pretty”
Sexuality is messy. The attraction I feel is pretty equal. How the world perceives me is more gay than straight (because the world likes to pretend that bisexuality doesn’t exist, and then act like I’m changing my mind when I “switch from being gay to straight” or vice versa (/facepalm). In terms of who I actually date or hook up with, the balance is probably skewed towards men. These three components (attraction, outward identification/presentation and behaviour) make sexuality complex, especially for bisexual people; I would wager that there are many people who identify as straight and have had no same sex relationships, but who experience some level of same-sex attraction. It also gets more complex when one considers that many people experience sexual attraction and romantic attraction differently. For example, I have a friend who is asexual, but homoromantic.
You might find it interesting to read about the Kinsey scale, which looks at sexuality as a spectrum, with exclusively [homosexual/heterosexual] on the extreme ends of the scale, and degrees of bisexuality between them.
I once dated this bisexual girl and she was like “if you’re hot I don’t care if you’re male or female” and that’s how I see it.
Then again, men think that a gay man immediately wants to have sex with them. Society is stupid sometimes