• TheDoozer@lemmy.world
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      11 hours ago

      If I remember correctly (it’s been over 16 years), my wife suggested separate checks the first time, and I told her I’d pay this time and she could get the next one if she wanted to go out again.

      I think I still ended up paying for the next one (or separate checks), but that wasn’t a cultural norm thing, I just get uncomfortable with other people paying for me.

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      1 day ago

      My current fiance said she almost didn’t want to go on a second date with me because I wanted to go Dutch on our first date. She still tells me to this day that I’m lucky I was cute.

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          14 hours ago

          Date pays for their stuff, you pay for your own. Basically, separate tabs.

          To be clear, I would have paid if she had asked me to at the time. When the bill came for the food, I asked if she wanted separate or together, but my phrasing made it sound like I wanted to split it and she said that was fine. Whoops.

          Don’t worry, she’s making up for lost time. I pay for almost everything when we go out now 😅