Potential partners don’t have to be rapists or murderers to be worth avoiding. They could have anti-social tendencies, explosive tempers, or violent reactions. Or, just be generally unpleasant. Like you.

I wouldn’t have discovered I’m not much a fan of you, if I hadn’t made an innocuous comment about not holding it against women if they do a single smoke test for bad actors. We might have otherwise been buddy-buddy, with years of casual friendship, before something else triggered this, or a similar, conversation. And then, months or years down the road, I’d have to grapple with whether the friendship is salvageable. Because I don’t think shrugging at women who have to play russian roulette for love is very cool.

But, as I said, I’m lucky. I can say we’re done here, right now.